Tag: allies

What Can’t Be Said

Tonight, I went to a seminar called “Being a Good Latter-day Saint & Supporting God’s LGBTQ Children” a Listen, Learn, & Love production by Richard Ostler.  The seminar was a high school auditorium in Mesa Arizona full of Mormons who…

The Safe Way

LDS Living recently had an article with excerpts from Tom Christofferson’s book “That We May Be One, A Gay Mormon’s Perspective on Faith and Family.”1  Within LGBTQ+ Mormon circles, Tom’s book is controversial in that he tells his story of…

Sacred Spaces

Recently, I attended my fifth Affirmation Conference.  Affirmation is a support group for LGBTQIA Mormons.  It is a remarkably diverse space that includes not just inactive/ex-Mormons but active queer Mormons and active allies.  It bridges a wide span of both…

Rejection and the Family

Five years ago, my son was a 13-year-old deacon in our church.  He came out on Super Bowl Sunday, 2012.  For the year previous to that, my wife and I were very concerned as he was notably going downhill and…

Anger

I have a visceral memory from last year.  I remember stumbling out of Sacrament meeting with Wendy shaking and heaving with pain and despair.  Half way to our car, we just turned to each other and held each other weeping.…

A Tale of Two Weddings

Sunlight diffused through the trees over the wedding.  A light breeze cooled the summer day to a perfect temperature.  The wedding arch was decorated in lace and beautiful white lilies.  The groom stood to the left of the wedding officiant…

Clarity

It has been over four years since Wendy and I found out that Jordan was gay.  Three wards, two states and a persistent search for a ward family to call home.  I have documented our experience in our first ward…

Emotional Distance

Recently, I was asked to give a lesson from a Conference address in October by the new apostle Elder Renlund.  The last few lessons I have taught have been a significant struggle for me to teach.  My heart was devastated…

Sadness

A couple years ago, a member of the Bishopric in a previous ward shared how happy he is in the Church.  He shared how happy the gospel makes him and his family.  He finished it off with, “I don’t even…

Mormon Allies

I’d like to share my perspective on what it means to be an ally. My thoughts on this are not necessarily extremely sophisticated, but they come from the heart. My thoughts are very specific to the LGBT Mormon context, and…