Tom Montgomery

tommontgomeryTOM MONTGOMERY was raised in the LDS Church and over the past few years has traveled the road from going door-to-door in support of Prop 8 in California to having a great love for the LGBT Mormon community. Tom and his wife Wendy have the privilege of being the parents of a wonderful gay son and four other children.  Tom has written primarily from the perspective of the parent of an LGBT child.  He has explored the theological intersection of Mormonism and LGBTQ+ members and their families. He has also written about his family’s experiences navigating Mormonism with a gay child.  His primary goal is to support the health and well being of LGBTQ+ Mormon youth and adults.

3 comments for “Tom Montgomery

  1. Tom G
    June 22, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    Hi Tom,
    I know your main approach is towards the LDS church but I want you to be aware that this same thing happens in many other churches. Kids are kicked out or forced into “treatment.” Even if you and Wendy has not been supportive It’s hard to say for sure if your son would have carried through with his thoughts of leaving this world. Life would have been very rough for him had you not come around.
    I guess I mainly wanted to say “Thanks” to you and Wendy for being good parents.
    Tom in Nebraska

  2. Carl
    June 27, 2014 at 8:42 pm

    In your recent post outlining some points that you find frustrating about the LDS church, I couldn’t help but sense a deep frustration and almost anger in your writing towards those who have not come around to the perspective that you have gained. Am I picking up the correct sentiment from you in your writing? After reading the comments at the end of the post it seemed as if those who are more LGBTQ friendly saw your post as a “rally cry” and those who are “active” lds members found offense at some of your personal opinions about things that might help LGBT LDS feel more accepted.

  3. Joe
    September 12, 2017 at 9:42 am


    I want to thank you for your post on this website, the messages have been inspiring to me. I ran away from the church 35 years ago because of my sexual activities, but I was not able to accept being gay until a few months ago. The denial was rigidly enforced due to being raised in the church and has resulted in many emotional challenges in my life. Your son is so blessed to have you and Wendy as parents. Please continue to share your hope and support with the rest of us, because it helps us all.

    May God bless you!

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