Commenting Policy

1. This is a blog that focuses on the experience of being gay, lesbian, bi or transgender and Mormon, in all the variations of what that means to different people.  We do not assume that a “good” Mormon cannot be gay, any more than we assume that a “good” gay cannot be Mormon. We do believe that good science and good religion go together; that theology minus real-life experience equals bad theology; and that spirit plus element equals fullness of joy.  We are respectful of all the different paths that people walk in order to find happiness — in singleness or through marriage (both same-sex and opposite-sex), as a member of the LDS faith or of a different faith or of no faith at all. We ask that commenters refrain from judging others, keeping in mind that with what measure ye mete, it may some day be meted unto you.

2. We encourage open dialogue.  We like disagreement across the full spectrum of ideas, because disagreement provides us an opportunity to understand ourselves better.  We ask only that our conversations remain respectful.  We like to talk about ideas, not personalities.  We prefer sharing experiences over making generalizations.  We think it’s better to ask questions than to make assumptions.

3. If we feel a commenter has crossed a line by being disrespectful, engaging in personal attacks, or engaging in other forms of bullying behavior, we may delete or withhold those comments.  If there’s a reasonable doubt as to the intention of a comment, we may give a commenter a chance to revise a comment that comes across as disrespectful and then publish it.  Repeat offenders who consistently detract from the goals of promoting understanding and respectful dialogue may be blocked.

In general, individual permabloggers set the standards for what comments will be allowed for their own posts.

1 comment for “Commenting Policy

  1. Martin
    July 5, 2013 at 12:06 pm

    We gay dads need to get to the bottom of this – that the Church has now decided not only to shove US away, but even our own children if they choose to love us?! Wow. If this is truly the case, then my church has now become an enemy to me. Because they have completely rejected the notion of “unconditional love” and have become anti-Christian. And because they have kidnapped my children. And have told us that they must love THEM first. I’m sorry to have to say this, but, having been in a radical Evangelical church in Los Angeles in the summer of 1980, I know exactly what this is leading to.

    Furthermore, I certainly understand the concept of “scapegoat” having been raised Jewish and have had experienced subtle anti-Semitic comments during my adolescence. Well, here we are, so obviously the new scapegoat – and all that’s wrong with the world. It’s one thing to want to put a “yellow star” on me, even to boycott doing “business at my shop” – but it’s a whole ‘nother thing if you then punish a child of mine for loving me.

    Shame on the Mormon church in Utah county for all their extremism! Those zealots are now pushing me to do everything I can do to put a floodlight into their darkness, and even to get them to see CLEARLY what now appears to be an out-and-out threatening practice. After 25 years of membership, this may wind up being the straw that just broke THIS camel’s back. Frankly, if this practice is not an isolated one, I just hit the wall.

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