Randall Thacker


RANDALL THACKER grew up in Taylorsville, Utah, the youngest of three children. He recognized his attraction to the same sex when he was about 8 years old. He grew up focusing prayers, fasts, and birthday candle wishes on removing this attraction.

Not long after returning from a Spanish-Speaking mission to North Carolina, he reached out for help to his BYU bishop who referred him to counseling. The counseling focused on changing Randall’s orientation because he longed to create an ideal Mormon family with many children.

After graduating from BYU with a B.A. in History, Randall moved to Salt Lake City, where after falling in love with a straight friend, he returned to reparative therapy and began attending group therapy as well. Luckily, one of the group therapists introduced Randall to the possibility of self-acceptance.

Randall’s journey of self-acceptance was a long one though, which included a moment of great despair shortly after moving to Washington, DC in 2002. Thanks to compassionate friends and family and a new understanding that he could separate God from emotionally harmful doctrine, Randall moved on. After almost ten years of studying and visiting other faiths and at times none at all, Randall returned to regular attendance at his local LDS ward in 2011, embraced by ward leaders who are welcoming and affirming. “I know that God and spirituality are broader than just the LDS church, yet I also have a testimony of the Restoration and feel the Spirit guiding me to walk my journey of spiritual growth as a Latter-Day Saint.”

Besides his work with Affirmation, Randall is passionate about improving education in Mexico and loves his work as a management consultant and leadership coach, helping individuals and organizations reach their potential. He enjoys rowing, bicycling, running, skiing, reading, and spending time with family and friends.

1 comment for “Randall Thacker

  1. Meg
    February 1, 2015 at 9:03 pm

    Hi Randall god bless you for what you do. I was baptized in the church when i was 19. I felt so safe and loved and accepted. I was in a very abusive family situation and the church saved me throughout the years i strongly believe in it.I am 32 now. Im so confused now though. Im bisexual but after all the years of abuse by my father i will never enter into a relationship with a man. Women are safe for me. I know there are good men of course. I just cant be physically intimate with a man. I want to have a loving relationship with soneone. I want a good life. This is crushing me. The church would excommunicate me. Im really drowning. I have many problems but i would love some advice and guidance on this because i want to live an honest life. I dont want god to hate me. I have already lost so much.

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