Recently we held a fireside at our home. There was no specific topic, speaker or agenda. We simply sent out the invitation and 20-30 people came. Many were our LGBT+ friends who live in the area and a few visitors…
Grace
Category: Self-acceptance
Anger
I have a visceral memory from last year. I remember stumbling out of Sacrament meeting with Wendy shaking and heaving with pain and despair. Half way to our car, we just turned to each other and held each other weeping.…
Clarity
It has been over four years since Wendy and I found out that Jordan was gay. Three wards, two states and a persistent search for a ward family to call home. I have documented our experience in our first ward…
Why Pride?
The day after the news of the new LDS Church policies on gay families hit social media, I prayed. Yes, the news was devastating to me and to so, so many in the LGBT Mormon community. In the weeks following,…
Sadness
A couple years ago, a member of the Bishopric in a previous ward shared how happy he is in the Church. He shared how happy the gospel makes him and his family. He finished it off with, “I don’t even…
An LDS Family Unites In Love For Their Gay Son, Brother, Nephew, Cousin
By Liisa Lowe Frei, Jordan Frei and the Frei Family My husband, Nick, and I have six children: four boys and two girls. This is the story of our fourth child, Jordan. Almost two years ago I was in my…
Complicating Factors in the LGBT Mormon Spiritual Path
I am contacted fairly frequently by parents or other family members of gay or lesbian Latter-day Saints. They are anxious for their gay or lesbian loved ones to somehow find a way to stay active in the LDS church. Even…
What Words Can’t Define
Mormons, like most Christian’s, in pursuit of greater spiritual understanding, pursue Christ’s words in scripture. Who’s words, on any given subject, are more authoritative than those of the Savior himself? Even more notable are subjects on which Christ never spoke…
Changing the Conversation
About three years ago or so, I was approached by a friend who wanted to solicit my participation in a documentary project about gay Mormons. The friend was Jon Hastings, someone I’d come to know through the gay Mormon blogging…
From One Broken Saint To Another: The Messages We Give our Youth
By Kalani Tonga Tukuafu (also published at Feminist Mormon Housewives blog under the title ‘Why “Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin” Doesn’t Work for Me’ http://www.feministmormonhousewives.org/2014/03/why-love-the-sinner-hate-the-sin-doesnt-work-for-me/) These days, there is much ado about modesty rhetoric. People hotly debate both sides of the issue,…